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The North Hampshire Clinic was opened by Carol Graham in 2016.  Carol had been a full-time psychotherapist in private practice for many years before she completed her post graduate qualification in psychosexual and relationship therapy.  Carol had been acutely aware of the lack of psychotherapists and counsellors in the North Hampshire area who had specialist psychosexual training enabling them to work ethically and competently with sexual and relationship issues, and so the clinic was born.

At the North Hampshire Clinic, we specialise in Sex Therapy, Relationship Counselling and Sex Education. We offer a non-judgmental, safe environment for you to explore your sexuality, your relationships and the problems that they may bring.

We have a healthy outlook on sex and don’t have any trouble talking about it. Sex is fundamental, after all, it is the reason we are all here!

Carol Graham

Founder of the North Hampshire Clinic, Psychotherapist, Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist, Hypnotherapist and EMDR Practitioner.

Carol specialises in psychosexual and relationship therapy and is the founder of the North Hampshire Clinic in Basingstoke. Carol is a fully qualified Psychotherapist, Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist, Hypnotherapist and EMDR Practitioner. She is an accredited member of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT), a senior accredited member of the National Council of Psychotherapists (NCP) and a registered member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP).

“I have been enjoying a truly fascinating and rewarding career for many years helping people change their thoughts and behaviours for a better life experience. Using the many tools in my therapeutic tool box, I have helped hundreds of clients with many issues.” Since opening the North Hampshire Clinic, and choosing to specialise in sex and relationship issues, I have noticed that my work hasn’t changed that much.  I am still working with fears, phobias, addictions, anxiety, depression, weight and body image issues, confidence and motivation issues. It’s obvious; whatever is going on in your life, if something is affecting your mental health, your physical health, your finances, your work or your relationships, it’s almost surely going to affect your sex life”.

“I have always had a very healthy outlook on sex, I’m sex positive and I’m able to be very open and candid with my clients.  I believe it’s because of this, that they very quickly begin to feel at ease. I approach my work with kindness, empathy and a little bit of humour, where it’s appropriate”.

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Martin Fahey

Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist, Psychotherapist and Psychotherapeutic Counsellor

Martin is a professionally qualified and experienced Psychotherapeutic Counsellor with a First Class Honours degree in Integrative Counselling from Roehampton University and additional specialist training in Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy at The London Diploma of Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy. He is a member of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) and a registered member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP).

In his work as a Psychosexual & Relationship therapist, Martin has supported LGBTQ++, heterosexual and non-binary couples and individuals from many diverse cultural and social backgrounds; in addition to 12 years in Private Practice, he has worked for the NHS in GUM (Genito Urinary Medicine) clinics in Surrey and Berkshire and with numerous charities such as Terrence Higgins Trust, St. Peter’s House and Positive Action supporting patients and clients with their sex and relationship difficulties.

“My passion is demystifying unhelpful attitudes, social stigmas and shameful feelings about sex and working collaboratively with my clients to help them develop a clearer and meaningful understanding of their sexual and relationship difficulties and desires so that they can embrace the changes they need to make to create the relationship and sex lives that they want.”

“As an Integrative Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist, I draw on therapeutic techniques and understanding from the Person-Centred, Psychodynamic, Existential, Gestalt, CBT and Attachment models of therapeutic counselling to create a unique, flexible and personalised way of working with you that is tailored to your own specific needs and difficulties.”

“I aim to create a confidential and non-judgemental therapeutic space with you that is safe, trusted and sensitive to your individual needs, so that you can freely explore the issues that are troubling you without feeling judged or forced into making decisions that are not right for you.

Above all, as well as the serious stuff, I aim to create a therapeutic environment that can be fun, playful, humorous and exciting……..after all, isn’t that what healthy sex and relationships are too!!”

If you would like to book an appointment, please call me on 07920 554775

Steven Hayward

Trainee Psychosexual Therapist

Steven is currently completing his post-graduate training in Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy and is joining Carol to complete his psychotherapy certifications. He will be working at the Clinic every Wednesday. Steven is a member of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) and is bound by their ethical codes of practice.

“I am passionate about living a fulfilled life. A big part of our happiness and general well-being is rooted in positive and fulfilling relationships with others. Nowhere is this more pertinent than in our romantic and sexual relationships. Unfortunately, we aren't gifted with a perfect instruction manual that defines how our relationships or our sexuality must function and so occasionally we become stuck or find ourselves against an obstacle that we are unable to tackle alone. I provide a safe and supportive space where you can be real, be heard, and be free from judgement. If you are an individual and would like to talk with me about a sexual issue; or if you are a couple and would like to work on your relationship, then I offer open-ended therapy for as long as you need, and will always strive to give you the best opportunity to explore and work on your difficulty or your challenge."

During Steven's training, we are offering sessions with him at £40 for one hour. His work will be mentored by Carol Graham together with regular clinical supervision from a COSRT accredited clinical supervisor, to ensure the efficacy of his psychotherapy practice. If you would like to take advantage of this reduced cost and book a session, please email us at stating you would like an appointment with Steven.

Steven has a background in IT management and design and has worked in many industries including Investment Banking, Telecommunications, and Industrial and Medical Gases. He also has a keen interest in the philosophy of mind, especially consciousness, ethics, rationality, and free-will. Steven has been a musician for over thirty years, holds a black-belt in karate, and can solve any Rubik's cube in about 20 seconds!

Jess Simmonds

Co-creator of North Hampshire Clinic e-Therapy

Jess specialises in technology and digital marketing and is working alongside Carol to build the North Hampshire Clinic’s new e-Therapy Courses, due to be launched throughout 2019.

“I started working with Carol in 2018 and quickly found a passion for the work that she has been doing within the Clinic. I found it extremely interesting, and eye-opening, learning and understanding the true intricacies of sex and relationships, together with the real difference that being open and communicating with your partner (and others) can make I am extremely excited to be co-creating the new e-Therapy courses with Carol, which will allow us to support more couples and individuals, who for many reasons may not be able to access face to face therapy sessions”

If you would like to know more about how you can get involved with our eTherapy courses or when they will be available, email Jess at

Professional Organisations

College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists

Accredited member of COSRT, the UK's leading organisation for Therapists specialising in sexual and relationship issues. For over 30 years it has ensured members keep up-to-date with the latest developments in therapy, providing training and conferences and all therapists abide by a professional code of ethics.

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

A member of BACP, this professional association works to ensure safe, ethical and competent practice in counselling and psychotherapy.

National Council of Psychotherapists (NCP)

A Senior Accredited Member of NCP. Formed in 1971, members of the Council are bound by a published Code of Conduct to ensure high levels of professional standards, providing a safe and ethical practice for patients. 

The first step is always the hardest....

I understand that the idea of therapy for many people is a big step. I am here to put you at your ease, ensure that all your fears are addressed and answer any questions you may have. Take the next step, contact me today and book your first appointment.